Jerry's Odd Corner of the Internet

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joshibelieveinit:

Lately, as a gay man, I have been exploring  outspoken the world of tumblr and national news regarding civil liberties. There are freedom of marriage fights being waged across the country so that men can marry men and women can marry women. This is what I have been watching and waiting for, and my partner ( whom I call my Husband, sexy foxy devil that he is) and I have been so involved in this as we moved through our twenties that I think we have been out of the loop on the new sexual and gender identity issues surfacing all around us. I’ll explain.

As many of you out there know, a bevvy of sexual identity terms has sprouted up and outward over the past 10 years or so. When I was in high school, we has transexuals (barely), gays, lesbians, bisexuals. That was pretty much it. That’s what we knew, and what we fought to establish and protect. We were building on the foundation started for us by a generation of persecuted men and women living their lives in secret, whose history and struggle I knew of, but never fully embraced until adulthood. As a child who grew up in the 80’s and 90’s, once I knew what I was, I also knew I had it better off than that previous generation. They accomplished that very parental role of making the world a better place for the next group of souls to wander down the paths they forged. Even so, we all faced our own bullies, demons, shame-monsters and abandonment issues. Those of us who came through are much stronger for it. We lost a few, sadly, over the years, but I can’t help feeling we’d have lost even more of our little oddball queer tadpoles if we hadn’t had predecessors to show us how to swim against the current.

As I began to explore, a few things happened. I saw newer forms of sexual identity appreciation blooming. I learned was cisgendered and pansexual are. I heard the voices of those in the trans community reaching out in pain and frustration for not being accepted and fought for by the gay and lesbian community. at first, this was difficult for me to understand. As I had known it, this fight had been a close knit cabal of refugees banded together by common cause. Perhaps I misconstrued the tail end of this bonded brother/sisterhood as something which would be everlasting, in the same way a child cannot foresee the end of summertime.

But, the times must and always change. These kids in their early twenties and late teens just following me were able to be openly gay without the aid of the trans community. Some, not all,but some began to pull away from our transexual friends.  Others used personal preference to define what the new gay/lesbian movement should entail.They started a small movement of opinion with annecdotal colloquialisms:

“There are no bisexuals, only gays who haven’t admitted it. What a tranny. I only like masculine, outdoorsy types. She’s a lesbian bottom. I could never date a trans person, the equipment isn’t the same.”

Slowly these preferences coalesced into a culture-cloud big enough for our siblings in civil rights to feel. And it hurt them like losing a blood relative. Like another limb of the family tree which was cut off, they lost that supporting arm. Now, we have trans-community activists fighting to get something done with less help from the gay/lesbian community.

This is bullshit. 

A key concept in Buddhism is that when we look at the world around us, and really see it for what it is, we will begin to notice that separation is an illusion and that all things are truly one thing.

All fights for Civil rights are one fight. When it comes down to the bones of why we fight for rights, it’s so that everyone can have them. Equally. So that we all can be who we are meant to be. So that we can love who we want to love, and live safely. We are not separate. We are part of a greater picture of family, and we owe it to each other to fight for not just our own rights, but for the rights of those next to us, to empower them to fight for those next to them, and the ones to follow.

When you feel alone, trans friends, pan-sexual friends, unknown friends, remember this idea. Separation is an illusion. We really are one, and there are others who know it, who feel you and your struggle and we are here. Don’t let yourself be fooled into thinking you are less than anything or anyone. We love you and we will help you.

I just really love this post, and it makes me so happy to see. :)

something-foryou:

Could someone please tell me how a pansexual person is different from bisexual? Just curious.

A very simple way to put it is that bi literally means two. Pan literally means all. So, that being said, bisexuals are attracted to two genders. Most commonly those two genders are male and female. Pansexuals are attracted to all gender identities and physical sexes. While I myself am not gender blind, some pansexuals feel that they are gender blind. In a way these two sexualities are similar, but they are not the same. If you have any questions or anything you want to learn more about, you can also check out http://askapansexual.tumblr.com :)

how-i-met-your-murderer:

Or maybe they’re just plain stupid.

Or maybe people decide that they can be more open online than they can in person because of assholes like you. Moron.

leftish:

but after those elections what kind of legislation do we actually get?

Abortion, gay marriage, English as an official Language, banning Sharia Law?, stripping Union Rights…

All this stuff is not about jobs and the economy, but it IS about capitalizing on how afraid people are IN a bad economy. It’s about telling Americans that other Americans are the enemy. It’s about splitting people up.

It makes political sense, but it’s really bad for the country.

~ Rachel Maddow

“femmeffatale:

The explanation I have received on the definition of pansexuality is that you are attracted to someones heart and bisexuality is being sexually attracted to both sexes. BUT if you are attracted to someones heart…that is what FRIENDSHIP is. You cannot be in a relationship without sexual attraction. IT JUST DOESN’T WORK LIKE THAT. If you don’t have it, its called a friendship. Now if you say you are sexually attracted to them…that makes you bisexual. Based on the definition that I have gathered from this website. 

Someone fight me on this. 

Bisexuality= Sexual Attraction to/willing to be in a relationship with all sexes
Pansexuality= friendship with all sexes

Hate on it. 

For the record, you sound like an asshole when you tell people to “Hate on” the sexuality of others. It makes you sound like a fucking bigot. I don’t have the energy to type up something fresh because I did a bit of explaining about pansexuality yesterday. So the following will be copied and pasted from a few previous explanations:

“Look, you may not understand it all, but there are people that don’t fit into the gender binary of “Male” and “Female”. There are transsexuals, genderqueers (Those who identify as male and female), and agendered people (Those who don’t identify with any gender). All pansexuals are saying is that we don’t care where someone is on the gender spectrum, and we don’t care what is in-between their legs. It may sound like bullshit to you, but that’s who we are.”

“I consider myself pansexual because it is the label that fits me best. Bisexual never really did it for me. ….. People vary in all different kinds of ways, including how they express their sexuality, and there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s all up to individual choices. I hope this helped you understand better.”

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If you want to have a genuine discussion about it, my inbox is open. Please come with an open mind.

lovelisandro:

Seriously.

It’s called The Sexual Fluidity Project.

It’s currently a submission blog, where you submit audio, text, and video responses

to questions concerning the spectrum of sexuality

(listed on the blog’s page).

After the project coordinators cut off submissions

(which won’t be any time soon, so no worries)

they will take the responses and compile them into a documentary

“that explores sexuality and all the complexities of it.”

During the editing process, each submission will be posted

so you guys can take a look at what’s being discussed

and then submit your own responses if you’d like.

The blog provides a list of questions and LGBTQQIA-etc. terms and definitions,

and moderators answer all questions pretty promptly.

Check it out, it’s really interesting: http://sexualfluidityproject.tumblr.com/

Love, Lisandro.

nuclearpiggy:

I’m tired of pansexuals bashing bisexuals and bisexuals bashing pansexuals. If you don’t understand each other, you have google right at your fingertips. Better yet, just ask the person about their orientation. It seems like there’s a lot of misunderstanding between the two communities and it’s a bit tragic to watch you rip each other apart like wild dogs because of it.

You can’t hate each other over how you choose to love. It doesn’t work that way.

I’ve never seen people genuinely hating on pansexuals until I tracked the pansexuality tag just now. There’s some moron who’s being all “THERE IS NO INBETWEEN, ONLY MEN AND WOMEN, RAHRAHRAH”. I call her a moron not because of whatever her sexuality is (Because I don’t give a shit what it is), but because she is a closed-minded idiot who thinks she can dictate what is and is not. The fact is that pansexuality is as real as any other sexuality, and to say that biologically everyone is either male or female completely leaves out and erases intersex people. And what about trans* people?! Do they just not exist, or something? Am I imagining the millions and millions of trans* people around the world? For fuck sakes, how much of an intolerant ass can you be? I find that kind of bass-akwards illogical shit to be moronic, cissexist, and yes, I’m ranting because it deserves to be ranted about. I’m tolerant and accepting of everyone except those who have hate in their hearts.

Here’s the original post, in all of it’s hateful, ignorant glory. It’s ironic, btw, that she tags it saying that she doesn’t hate pansexuals, when the last line of the post is “You’re all shit, stop trying to be different and get over yourselves.”

If only people could have common sense and logic punched into them…unfortunately, I’d have to hit her so many times, she’d be dead by the time she had the common sense of a five-year-old.

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